How do CW feel about relative foster parents? - Adoption.com Forums

Hi there. I think I have already told you my story, but it's been awhile. I have done kinship foster care twice, with two different outcomes.

First case: Concurrent placement of a 2 1/2 year old precious little girl. She was taken due to a pretty serious domestic violence incident. Parents were alcoholic to the extent that they partied with homeless people. Bio mom was my cousin. No one thought the parents would be able to do it long term. Caseworker was sure the case would go to adoption. It didn't. Mom and Dad worked their butts off, got back custody at the six month mark and are still doing well to this day. It was difficult emotionally to change paths, but we did, and have a good relationship to this day with the family.

Second kinship case: straight foster situation of a toddler and 9 month old. Bio mom is the daughter of my first bio mom. The placement was only to be for 3 months, the blackout period for the residential rehab she selected. Mom had a meth addiction and was a teen parent. During the placement, bio mom did little things to extend the blackout period. When she finally was able to have the kids come live with her, at the 9 month mark, she had a breakdown and abandoned the children fleeing the rehab. She signed an identified surrender a couple of weeks later. We have adopted the children and have a good relationship with their mother. This whole situation took us, and the CW completely by surprise.

I found the CW to be overloaded, but well meaning. They tended to tell us what we wanted to hear at times, which irritated me. My adopted kids CW kept the fact that their mother was struggling emotionally with me and in fact up to the day she signed I thought they were going back. I felt that it didn't matter to them if we were to adopt, or not. I was treated the same no matter what. I really liked them, and they liked us, but that does not matter in the least whether a child stays or not. It matters if the parents follow through with their case plan. It does not look good for Happy Baby's mother. Remember, though, she could suprise you and do a turn around. This whole thing is a roller coaster! Good luck to you and Happy Baby!

Source: http://forums.adoption.com/foster-parent-support/411374-how-do-cw-feel-about-relative-foster-parents.html

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